Comments on: Safety in numbers. http://dandyjack.com/2008/06/01/this-post-may-be-upsetting-to-some About a preemie boy born at 27 weeks Fri, 23 Dec 2011 14:39:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: Liz http://dandyjack.com/2008/06/01/this-post-may-be-upsetting-to-some/comment-page-1#comment-1813 Liz Wed, 04 Jun 2008 18:44:42 +0000 http://dandyjack.com/?p=355#comment-1813 I loved your post. And don't feel guilty or bad about any of it. Like Kate from Sweet Salty I live in both camps, and have felt just about everything. We are always here to chat. And Jack and Nina will make a beautiful preemie couple one day. Even if they both end up wearing glasses. I loved your post. And don’t feel guilty or bad about any of it. Like Kate from Sweet Salty I live in both camps, and have felt just about everything. We are always here to chat. And Jack and Nina will make a beautiful preemie couple one day. Even if they both end up wearing glasses.

]]> By: sweetsalty kate http://dandyjack.com/2008/06/01/this-post-may-be-upsetting-to-some/comment-page-1#comment-1812 sweetsalty kate Tue, 03 Jun 2008 02:42:55 +0000 http://dandyjack.com/?p=355#comment-1812 Hey, I get to hang out in both camps: with the deadbabymamas as well as with the waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop shellshocked NICU mamas. yay me. :) You made me giggle tonight about the other mama and the glasses-wearing little girl. I think I've even done that before too, spotting a kid that just has that teensy-limbed, unchubby look about them. I think I've almost chased them down the street. I've never caught up, though. Maybe next time. Hey, I get to hang out in both camps: with the deadbabymamas as well as with the waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop shellshocked NICU mamas. yay me. :)

You made me giggle tonight about the other mama and the glasses-wearing little girl. I think I’ve even done that before too, spotting a kid that just has that teensy-limbed, unchubby look about them. I think I’ve almost chased them down the street. I’ve never caught up, though. Maybe next time.

]]> By: Lori http://dandyjack.com/2008/06/01/this-post-may-be-upsetting-to-some/comment-page-1#comment-1811 Lori Mon, 02 Jun 2008 21:38:57 +0000 http://dandyjack.com/?p=355#comment-1811 I found the site you referenced a few weeks ago. I had been reading Kate's blog when she posted that she had joined up with the other mamas at glow in the woods. You are right it is humbling to be there in their presence. The wondering if the other shoe will drop has been the worst part of this preemie parent journey for me. I understand the place you are sitting in. I will be a preemie online bud if you need another! And if you want to...private mail me and I will give you the link to the micropreemie group I belong to. They are a good bunch of gals. Lori I found the site you referenced a few weeks ago. I had been reading Kate’s blog when she posted that she had joined up with the other mamas at glow in the woods. You are right it is humbling to be there in their presence.

The wondering if the other shoe will drop has been the worst part of this preemie parent journey for me. I understand the place you are sitting in. I will be a preemie online bud if you need another! And if you want to…private mail me and I will give you the link to the micropreemie group I belong to. They are a good bunch of gals.

Lori

]]> By: Nicole http://dandyjack.com/2008/06/01/this-post-may-be-upsetting-to-some/comment-page-1#comment-1810 Nicole Mon, 02 Jun 2008 14:34:31 +0000 http://dandyjack.com/?p=355#comment-1810 Same as Liz, I think the same thing at the park- PLEASEISWEARI'MCOOLBEMYFRIEND. Anyway, might I give you some total assvice? Please ignore as you see fit- 1. If you want a group like this, maybe you should start it? Try to get a group of preemie moms together IRL? I'm sure there are lots of you in NYC. Same as Liz, I think the same thing at the park- PLEASEISWEARI’MCOOLBEMYFRIEND.

Anyway, might I give you some total assvice? Please ignore as you see fit- 1. If you want a group like this, maybe you should start it? Try to get a group of preemie moms together IRL? I’m sure there are lots of you in NYC.

]]> By: liz http://dandyjack.com/2008/06/01/this-post-may-be-upsetting-to-some/comment-page-1#comment-1809 liz Mon, 02 Jun 2008 11:57:55 +0000 http://dandyjack.com/?p=355#comment-1809 this makes my heart sad and i want to crawl through this computer and give you a big hug. i think, no matter what our circumstances, as bloggers we're all here for the community. some of us need the community for different reasons: for emotional support after loss; to use an outlet to express things that otherwise would end up stuffed deep down inside; for validation; for friendship; for a broader sense of self and family. so don't think there's anything weird about hoping that little girl with glasses at the park was a preemie with a mother you could connect with. i think that was just a more real, more visceral experience than you might get, say, online. and i think i have those same fantasies when see mothers of other young kids at the park... i call it the "will you be my friend, PLEASE? PLEASEPLEASEPLEASE?!" response. because, dude...this motherhood business? it's lonely. this makes my heart sad and i want to crawl through this computer and give you a big hug.

i think, no matter what our circumstances, as bloggers we’re all here for the community. some of us need the community for different reasons: for emotional support after loss; to use an outlet to express things that otherwise would end up stuffed deep down inside; for validation; for friendship; for a broader sense of self and family.

so don’t think there’s anything weird about hoping that little girl with glasses at the park was a preemie with a mother you could connect with. i think that was just a more real, more visceral experience than you might get, say, online.

and i think i have those same fantasies when see mothers of other young kids at the park… i call it the “will you be my friend, PLEASE? PLEASEPLEASEPLEASE?!” response. because, dude…this motherhood business? it’s lonely.

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